Thursday, March 29, 2012

Dealing with Disappointment

I think I was more nervous then my son. I even felt like throwing up.

They called the runners up. Not him. It was okay. He could still get first and the scholarship, too. It would be okay.

He fidgeted with his suit in front of cameras and hundreds of people as the announcers paused.

His face fell when they named the winner. I wanted to run up and hug him and tell him everything was going to be alright.
It was a quiet drive home.

Disappointment happens to everybody. But it's not the winning or the disappointment that defines who we really are.

It would have been nice to see my son win. He's worked through a lot (he has autism). But winning never makes him who he is on the inside.

I think as writers, it is easy to get discouraged. When we start, we think all we have to do is write a quick story and everyone will love it. We'll get an agent in a week, we'll be on the best sellers list (because Mom thinks it should be). But we learn there is more to this journey than that.

There is work. Hard work. Revisions, edits, finding agents, writing more books and yes, the occasional chocolate binge. (Which I was just told can be good for you! Yay chocolate.)

But we should not let the disappointments (or the successes for that matter) define who we are.

My son is doing great this week. The award ceremony is in the past. It has changed some things for him (going to a different college), but he is happy and full of excitement for the future. It didn't define him or destroy him. He is continuing to be awesome!

I hope this writing journey finds us all where we dream of, but if not, it's okay. With every door that closes, another one opens.

How have you dealt with disappointment?  Do you think it was for the best?

Have a great week everyone! Good luck with the writing/reading/ laundry cleaning/ whatever! ;) 

Monday, March 19, 2012


Thank you Photobucket! 
For those of you who have been following me for a while, you know that I've been trying to run for a long...long...long time.

I've always had issues with running (side stitches, shin splints, pulled tendons, chocolate cravings while running...curse you delicious chocolate).

 A month ago, I started running and just ran. I gave myself little goals and marked off each one as I passed it.

 Well, last week I finally had a break through. I ran without getting winded (actually it's not's dying I don't feel like dying anymore). I know! I can't believe it either!

The secret: Consistency. 

Instead of being wishy-washy (I'm not talking about my mountain of laundry...although it should be wishy-washy), I set a goal to run 3 times a week and I increased my running time (from like five minute to ten...hee hee, j/k. I run an hour-not all running).

I can't believe the difference it's made! Why didn't anyone tell me sooner? (Evil eye to all my skinny runner friends.) I know I'm not the best runner, but hey...I'll take this victory (with a side of m-n-m's please)!

The same thing goes with writing. If you want to get that book finished, if you want to become a better consistent. Set little goals and achieve them, and then set more.

I know I've been stuck in that writing lull this year and the only way I pulled through it was setting aside writing time and sticking with it. It's done wonders!

So tell me, what are your little victories this week? What writing tips do you want to pass on that have helped you get passed the lulls? Anything...anything?

Have a great week everyone!

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Loved This!

Sorry I haven't been around this week. I'm busy putting finishing touches on the ms.

Since, I'm gone I thought I'd share this awesome video I found from our internet news place (yeah, our news puts on cool stuff like this that people have done! Awesome!)

Thanks Soul Pancake!

Have a great week everyone! <3

Monday, March 5, 2012

Don't Burn Yourself Out!

When I was first married, I worked as a cake decorator. I loved it! It was fun and I got to create a whole bunch of wedding cakes.

But, I found myself working late nights (a few times all night) and I got sick of the business. (Have you ever worked with the mother of the bride? Very scary at times.)

Writing/blogging/whatever can be the same way.

I've learned that I need to take breaks from things so I don't hate them. I guess that's why I only post on my blog once a week. I don't want to get sick of it (plus the whole writing time needs to come first).

But don't get me wrong, I know I need my name out there and I love the whole blogging community. But I have to remember that I shouldn't be doing it 24/7. Because I love it. <3 (Love ya blogger)

So how about you? Do you ever find that you spend too much time doing only one thing? (Okay, back to the query writing. *whip crack*)