Thursday, February 16, 2012

What do you Think?

Do people change after they get published?

This question has popped up in both my critique groups and it got me thinking. Do they?

I think published authors definitely have more demands in certain areas because of deadlines. Does that make them less likely to visit others blogs? More likely to change how they handle things?

I personally, have seen some of my friends change and others stay just as they were when I first met them. But it's an interesting topic of discussion.

So tell me, what do you think? What have you seen?


Sara B. Larson said...

I don't think you can generalize it, because everyone is different. But I have seen it go both ways, and to varying degrees and for different reasons.

David P. King said...

Yes. To a further extend, everyone changes. It just depends on how they change. Some get busier (like me). Some use their experience to help others, and then there are those who think too highly of themselves (I never want to enter that boat - you have my permission to slap me if I even think of boarding that cruise).

Indigo said...

I've seen it happen (an author change), more times than not the newly published writer is no longer as attainable or receptive as they were before. On some level I understand they're under more pressure, as you said deadlines, etc.

Me? I would hope to always be open and amicable. The thing is...we can promise we won't change, but certain circumstances do change us on some level.

In the end, I think it depends on the person. I promise to always be there for you sweet friend, published or not. (Hugs)Indigo

Patti said...

I've only seen a few authors go and visit other people's blogs, most stop. I know it gets harder with more demands on your time, but I've also seen those who don't respond's readership go down.

Shannon O'Donnell said...

I think there isn't as much time for blog-hopping when they have so many deadlines, but many of the authors I know try hard to stay accessible and to keep their blogs and giveaways going. I think the key is to stay available and positive. Someday, I hope we can find out the mystery first hand. :-)

L.T. Elliot said...

Yes, it changes. It changes everyone, I think. And I don't think there's really anything wrong with it as long as pride doesn't get in the way. People's lives change daily and you never really know what's going on behind the scenes. Some people become less active. Some become more so. Sometimes it's a reevaluation of priorities and I think we all do the best we can. While I can wish I'll be a certain way after that contract, I can't guarantee it. I'll just do my best. And try to remember that everyone else is too.

J. A. Bennett said...

In some cases, yes. they have a lot more on their plate and they can't visit as many blogs. They are still awesome people, they just have more demands on their time :)

oh and I don't know if you knew, but you have word verification which is tough for bloggers like me who visit lots of blogs. You can come to my blog if you're not sure hot to get rid of it.)

MTeacress said...

I think I've seen a mixture too, but can't say for sure because I don't know most of them that well.

I hope you had a happy valentines day. <3

Angie said...

I don't know. I hope I don't change. I already am doing less blog visiting than I used to. =( Can't be helped, though. I haven't noticed a change in any of my published friends, though.

Jen Daiker said...

I find that I have less time to myself and more time to deadlines. It stinks because it's less time away from my blog buddies, but I think it comes down to managing things. I'm still trying to grasp the meaning of managing of things.

I'm still the same old me... I'm just a little less... available.

Janet Johnson said...

My experience is that when someone gets published, they suddenly have less time, so yes, fewer blog visits, fewer posts, but I don't think that means that the person has changed. They are just busy and I can respect that.

But I'm sure it happens both ways.

Kate Coursey said...

I think it depends on the author and the book. For instance, if an author becomes a bestseller, they may not have the time to visit everyone's blogs. I personally try to comment on the blogs of people who comment on mine (at the very least), but if my book were to become huge I'd probably have a lot more commenters.

Also, I saw you at LTUE from a distance at a panel, but I didn't get a chance to say hi. Hope everything's going well!

Al said...

I guess we change every time we experience something new.

By the way you guessed my WIIW right!

Nichole Giles said...

I think you're right. Everyone changes. When you set a goal and reach that goal, it's inevitable that something inside you grows and becomes more than it was as you were looking to achieve it.

However, it is up to the individual person to decide what they do with that change. Will you let it go to your head? Will you treat people differently? Will you allow all your time to be swallowed by new things? Will you make or find time for the people or projects that matter to you, even if you can't see a benefit?

Some of us will be fundamentally different once we find that success for which we've so long reached.

But some of us, even in changed circumstances, will remain fundamentally the same. We may be more busy. We may have more things on which to focus. We may even have to reevaluate where our priorities lie. But we will still be that person who once struggled. And we will strive to NEVER forget how we got there or how difficult that journey was.

I pray every day that when I find my success, it will change me only for the better, and that I will never, ever be tempted to forget those people who have been so important to me. Including you, Miss Carolyn. Hugs!

KarenG said...

This is an interesting topic. I read the comments too. I agree with those who mention the time crunch as an issue, because someone can have a new baby or get a new job and change their blogging habits just as easily as someone getting a publishing contract, or finding their books rising up the bestseller lists. All kinds of issues can cause changes in the blogging routine.

Lola Sharp said...

If you're speaking just to blog visits, well, sure, deadlines get in the way of blogging time.

As for personality and ego changes, I've seen that too. But I think that's a maturity (lack thereof) issue. Truly kind people stay kind, just busier.

Have a lovely weekend! :)


Melony said...

I'm late on this but I think they some people definitely change. I have seen it happen. Or maybe it is about prioritizing and we just discover, sadly, that we aren't the priority or friends we thought we were? I don't know. I try so hard to just be who I am. I'm gonna love the same people who have reached out to me and treated me well when I wasn't published, those who made me feel a part regardless and that's the important thing for me! Good post Carolyn! Love ya SO!

J.R. Johansson said...

Very interesting post and great comments. I agree about getting busy, but I think it's more how/if they change as a person that matters.